I am a function of you

“The day I knew you like parrot green, I decided to become hulk”.

A relationship is a two entity formula or an equation. Mathematically we can represent a relationship as x(y)=r. Where nothing is constant. What it means, in a nutshell, is the behavior of each entity in a relationship is directly dependent on the other entity in the relationship. Collection of these equations make up the universe. It gets complex as an entity participates in more than one equation. Due to which there is always a constant fluctuation of the entities as a result of multiple equations in play at the same time and in-turn it leads to constant changes in the formula or equation. So this is the state of the universe – every entity in a constant state of change with the constant change in their relationship(equation) with every other entity in the universe.

The equation again.  x(y)=r.

Now, let’s talk human.

The same applies to all human relationships. We are in a relationship(equation) implies we are constantly influencing each other based on a given equation(relationship) at that point in time and in-turn impacting the equation(relationship) itself. So be it love, friendship, intimate, official, family or hatred relationship we are constantly changing and relationships to changes along with us.

You are a function of me and I am a function of you.

It does not harm so far, but every equation has a window of tolerance for variables for the equation to stand valid. If the window is disobeyed, the equation will dissolve and the relationship ends.

Taking love, one of the most important relationships for the explanation.

i(you)=love. 

 

The equation is simple, “I love you“. But as all the attributes of the equation are constantly changing. You, me and the love are always changing. Each either gets better or worse but never remains the same. Love is not a constant and you need to fall in love with the same person every day to keep the love alive. So to be in love is a routine and not a once in love sticks forever case. In the equation, love depends on both the variables “you and me” and there is nothing called as one-sided love. To keep the equation stable there is a need for understanding and need to complement each other to even out the differences and keep the love. Compliments could be as simples as “Sometimes I am angry and you are calm and sometimes the other way out” or stupid as “You go crazy, I go crazier” or as beautiful as a “silence”.

Another way of looking at it is the responsibility of each(“you an I“) in the equation to maintain love and take it to the higher level with every opportunity. The growth and strength of love depend on the growth and strength of the individuals. If you give love, you get love. If you give hate, you get hate. Eventually.

Like all equations, this is a constant journey and the equation is evaluated every single minute. You are contributing to the equation every single minute. You give and receive every single minute. You influence, inspire, hurt and love every single minute. We can represent this continual equation as below.

What it says is. “I am how you treated me yesterday and you are how I treated you yesterday.”  It gives you the responsibility of being the function or responsibility of the relationship and at the same time the power to own it and determine what the relationship is going to be. Only you can make someone love you or hate you. You decide how you are perceived, the world sees you through your eyes.

To conclude, you are in a constant relation with every other entity in nature and the universe. You are constantly going through the equations of all your relationships. You are either adding value to deteriorating one or more relationships.

Be inspired, inspire. Love, live and relish.

Please leave your comments and suggestions about what you think of the concept. Would like to hear more interesting representations. We can build more hypothesis on this fundamentals.

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